How much time do you give and gift your body? Do you take time to make yummy food? Do you eat slowly enough to enjoy your food? Do you take time for walks in nature or other activities that bring you joy? Do you take time to visit your doctor for annual checkups? Or is … Read more
This is the fourth installment of our series “Four Painful Pitfalls to Avoid.” As a recap, we discussed how these three pitfalls can really take us off course to getting happy with our body: #1. The Perfectionism Syndrome #2. An All or Nothing Mentality #3. The Glass Half-Empty, All The Time Here’s our last one … Read more
This is our third week looking at the common pitfalls that keep us from getting happy with our body. Over the last two weeks, we looked out how being perfect and having an all or nothing mentality are missteps that keep us from getting happy with our body. This week I discuss the viewpoint of … Read more
Saw this sign in the massage room today after treating myself to an indulgent treatment called Body Bliss….Thai massage + facial. Yum! This sign, however, really struck me as I was lying down in my bedded bliss. I asked myself: “what’s my rush?” “How much happier could I be if I slowed down and let … Read more
When we shame and blame ourselves, we create feelings of dissatisfaction, disappointment, and levels of self-loathing. After a hefty dose of shame, our survival mechanism kicks in and we desperately, nearly unconsciously, develop ways for us to escape these negative feelings. We emotionally flee by either numbing the bad feelings or overcompensating to create good … Read more
We all have an Inner Critic. It’s our inner voice that is highly critical of our actions, outcomes, and behaviors. My question is, –do you use your inner critic and shame to motivate yourself? Do you listen and believe the harsh voice in your head and then let it bully you into making a decision? … Read more
Are your high standards for your body helping or harming you? Failing to meet high standards can lead us right down the rabbit hole of shame. Somewhere along our life journey, we absorbed messages our body should look, perform or feel a certain way. We judge ourselves, based on these invisibly acquired high standards and … Read more
*This video gives you a peek into my own potential “shame and blame hangover.” Ever have a day or evening of blowing your diet and exercise goals and wake up with this sense of a dense, dark cloud looming over your every step? You feel bad, for yet again, not following through on your plan to eat better and get your … Read more
On Monday two women told me my skin looked really great. One was my older sister, who added: “maybe it’s because you’ve put on a little weight.” Thanks…uh, I think. Truth be told, yes I have softened since I saw her last October (she lives out of state). Because the last 16 weeks have been one ongoing mini-emergency … Read more
We cannot leave our body behind. At least not forever. It will eventually need our care. It will at some point demand our attention. Let’s do it sooner while small adjustments and self-care can keep us feeling vibrant and healthy. How about we not wait until things get Ugly… I think you have a sense … Read more