The last few blogs I’ve been proposing that you can have a relationship with your body–just like relationships you have with other meaningful people in your life. We’ve been looking at what we think is bothering us about our body and also what we think and will help us get happy with our body. All … Read more What About Your Time, Attention & Energy?
Taking stock of where you are now is an integral part of building a relationship with your body. In Chapter One of Getting Happy with your Body, we assess how we honestly feel right now about our body. I think it is a rare occurrence when we step back, sit down, and truly consider what … Read more Gotta Start Somewhere. Let’s Be Honest.
Imagine feeling good about your body. Imagine having a sense of how to address your body’s changing needs. Imagine being able to decipher your body’s subtle aches and pains and turn them into greater understanding and solutions. Imagine a time in the near future when you feel comfortable in, confident with, and relaxed about your body. A time … Read more What’s the First Step to Getting Happy with your Body?
When we shame and blame ourselves, we create feelings of dissatisfaction, disappointment, and levels of self-loathing. After a hefty dose of shame, our survival mechanism kicks in and we desperately, nearly unconsciously, develop ways for us to escape these negative feelings. We emotionally flee by either numbing the bad feelings or overcompensating to create good … Read more Are You Harming Your Body by Escaping Shame?
We all have an Inner Critic. It’s our inner voice that is highly critical of our actions, outcomes, and behaviors. My question is, –do you use your inner critic and shame to motivate yourself? Do you listen and believe the harsh voice in your head and then let it bully you into making a decision? … Read more Do You Use Shame to Motivate Yourself?
*This video gives you a peek into my own potential “shame and blame hangover.” Ever have a day or evening of blowing your diet and exercise goals and wake up with this sense of a dense, dark cloud looming over your every step? You feel bad, for yet again, not following through on your plan to eat better and get your … Read more Do You Suffer from a Shame & Blame Hangover?
On Monday two women told me my skin looked really great. One was my older sister, who added: “maybe it’s because you’ve put on a little weight.” Thanks…uh, I think. Truth be told, yes I have softened since I saw her last October (she lives out of state). Because the last 16 weeks have been one ongoing mini-emergency … Read more Choosing tiny moments of well being, even amidst chaos.
We cannot leave our body behind. At least not forever. It will eventually need our care. It will at some point demand our attention. Let’s do it sooner while small adjustments and self-care can keep us feeling vibrant and healthy. How about we not wait until things get Ugly… I think you have a sense … Read more Banishing Ugly…the Body Struggle.
I don’t want you to struggle in your body. And if you don’t want to struggle in your body we’d best take out the struggle you are having with your body. I don’t want you and you body to be at odd anymore. They don’t need to be. A war between you and your body … Read more Grab a Coin and Choose You.